Sheila
Aug 20th, 2007
Aug 20th, 2007
Minding Your Manners in Hawaii
Every culture seems to have it’s own set of etiquette rules and Hawaii is no exception. If you learn a few local customs, it will help you to become a polite guest and will go a long way towards making your vacation more pleasant. Follow these tips to help you experience the aloha spirit more fully:
- Learn some Hawaiian words and phrases. At a minimum learn and use the words “aloha” and “mahalo” with sincerity. Aloha has several meanings, but as a visitor, you will most likely use it for saying hello and goodbye. Mahalo means thank you. Here is a web site to help you learn more about the Hawaiian language. These are beautiful words that you will soon learn to love.
- If you are presented with a lei, always accept and wear it with gratitude. Never take the lei off in the presence of the person who gave it to you. If you are an expectant mother, you may be given a different lei that has an open end. The open ended lei is intended to encourage a safe delivery.
- If you are invited into someone’s home, always remove your shoes before entering the home.
- If you are on a sight seeing drive and you notice a local driver in your rear view mirror, pull off the road at your earliest opportunity to let the local person pass. They know the roads and scenery like the back of their hands and can go at a faster pace than you.
- Don’t bring any fresh flowers, fruits, vegetables, etc to Hawaii as they could be harmful to the Hawaii agriculture and environment. Any plants or animals brought into Hawaii must be declared and inspected upon arrival.
- Don’t damage the coral by touching it or stepping on it. Be sure to read these coral reef etiquette recommendations.
- Don’t approach sea turtles, monk seals or humpback whales. See these guidelines for keeping appropriate distances.
- Don’t take any lava rocks or black sand which is considered to bring you bad luck.
- Be respectful of others particularly at historic or religious sites.
- Respect private property. All beaches in Hawaii are open to the public, but that doesn’t mean you can traipse across someone’s yard to reach the beach. Use the public beach access.
- Always pick up and properly dispose of your garbage. (Added by HawaiiVacationGifts)
- Never honk your horn in traffic unless it is an absolute emergency. (Added by Chris)
- As a courtesy, it is always a good idea to let older people or mothers with young children go a head of you in a line. (Added by Chris)
- In Hawaii there is a local language/dialect called “Pidgin“. For example the word hello may end up sounding like “ho brah”. Never attempt to speak pidgin to the locals as it will only irritate them. Do not assume that someone you overhear speaking pidgin is stupid, illiterate, or uneducated. Most locals are actually “bilingual”, in a sense that they speak perfect English as well as pidgin. (Added by Dave and B.N. Sullivan)
- Understand that hula is far more than just a dance to entertain tourists. B.N. Sullivan says, “hula is much more to those of us who live here, whether we are of ethnic Hawaiian ancestry or not. It is a central, and in some ways sacred, expression of local culture and tradition… If you are lucky enough to get invited to a local wedding or other celebration, or if you happen on a club or restaurant where locals gather and there is live music, you’ll see people spontaneously get up and dance hula when they hear one of their favorite pieces played. I mean young people, old people, women, men, little kids, grannies, aunties, uncles and so on. Do NOT snicker. This is the real deal! Count yourself lucky to see it.”
For the nice readers of Go Visit Hawaii who live in Hawaii, I welcome your input to this list. Are their any additional points you would like to add? Please comment. Mahalo!
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24 Responses to “Minding Your Manners in Hawaii”
Aloha Sheila,
I am a local girl living on the Big Island. This tip is for visitors and people who live in Hawaii. Pick up your opala! Meaning, pick up your trash! It pains me to see beautiful hiking trails, beaches, look out points, parks etc. littered with garbage or rubbish left by thoughtless people.
Great advice, HawaiiVacationGifts! I’ve never understood the people who think the world is their garbage can.
These are really great rules to live by when visiting Hawaii or any other palce for that matter. Respect the locals and their way of life. You are there to observe and should blend in and not stick out like and anoying sore thumb.
These rules should be provided to all incoming visitors to Hawaii. You may want to add that it is not a good idea to honk your horn in traffic unless it is an emegency. Also, as a courtesy, it is always a good idea to let older people or mothers with young children to go ahead in a line.
When my wife was ready to have our first baby in Hawaii, she was given a lei that did not have the ends tied together to encourage a safe delivery. So in case you are expecting a baby soon in Hawaii and you receive a lei, expect to receive a lei that is a little different, but with good intentions.
Debo Hobo - I totally agree that visitors are there to observe and not to be observed! Sometimes people act far too attention deprived on vacation. I used to live in London and from time to time I saw how loud and obnoxious Americans can be. It actually made me cringe knowing that that these people were my fellow citizens. Not every American acted that way, but when some did, they stuck out like a sore thumb.
Chris - Thanks for adding the bit about honking the horn and the significance of the open ended lei. I’m going to go ahead and add those pieces along with the advice above from HawaiiVacationGifts.
Great list of tips!
Don’t try to fake a Hawaiian or local accent.
Locals speak their own language called “Pidgin�. Phrases like “I don’t care� come out sounding like “Ainokea� Other phrases like “Ho Brah� for hello etc… The list goes on and on.
Don’t try to pick up on this. If you try to speak pidgin to the locals, it will only irritate them and possibly anger them. The same with pronouncing Hawaii with a “V� instead of a “W� like Havaii. Even though this is the correct pronunciation, it’s EXTREMELY irritating to listen to a tourist speak like this.
For example… I grew up in New Mexico. If a tourist were to go to Taco Bell and trill the “R� while ordering a Burrito… That might be enough to start a fist-fight depending on who is trying to fake the Mexican accent and who is at the restaurant.
It seems like fun to pick up on some of the local expressions while on vacation but you wouldn’t go to an ethnic neighborhood at home and try to fake a Spanish or a Chinese accent so please don’t do it here with Hawaiian accents and local phrases.
These are all great tips. The general theme is: respect! (Always a good thing, no matter where you are.)
To follow up a bit on what Dave correctly said about pidgin, do NOT assume that someone you overhear speaking pidgin is stupid, illiterate, or uneducated.
Many — maybe most — locals are “bilingual,” in a sense. They may go on in pidgin amongst themselves to an extent that is sometimes nearly incomprehensible to outsiders. Yet the same people can turn around and speak perfectly mainstream American English in a setting where that is more appropriate.
I’ll add one more — and I hope this is not too touchy.
Despite the popularized notion of hula as a form of entertainment, understand that hula is much more to those of us who live here, whether we are of ethnic Hawaiian ancestry or not. It is a central, and in some ways sacred, expression of local culture and tradition, not just something to entertain the tourists. If you are lucky enough to get invited to a local wedding or other celebration, or if you happen on a club or restaurant where locals gather and there is live music, you’ll see people spontaneously get up and dance hula when they hear one of their favorite pieces played. I mean young people, old people, women, men, little kids, grannies, aunties, uncles and so on. Do NOT snicker. This is the real deal! Count yourself lucky to see it. ;-}
I think the Polynesian Cultural Center does a great job of educating visitors on the history and tradition of the hula.
Great advice from Dave about not trying to fake “Pidginâ€?. It would be like visiting France and speaking English with a bad “French” accent - it just doesn’t work, so don’t even try it.
Dave & B N Sullivan - Thank you for adding those excellent points about pidgin and hula! I have updated the post with your input.
Andy - I agree that the Polynesian Cultural Center does a very good job of educating visitors about hula and other aspects of Polynesian culture.
What if one is moving to Hawaii in the near future and learning some expressions and pronunciation as a form of respect , however is only visiting at the time and practicing? What are your local thoughts on that?
Hi Robin - Are you talking about speaking pidgin or Hawaiian?
Hawaiian…I am moving in a year and I have been learning some Hawaiian (and correct pronunciation) because I respect the culture. Its one of the things I cherish about Hawaii and want to do my part in helping keep culture intact, not bring my “mainland ways” like many do. I have been visiting every 6 months for the last 10 years and it saddens me to think that others may see an attempt (in my case practice) as a negative thing. I think its better to see a respectful attempt by a haole than to see Hawaiians not learning or practicing their own language.
PS … not talking about pidgin here
Hi Robin,
I’ve lived here for about 10 years and I don’t pronounce things “Properly”. Not because I don’t know how but because it’s extremely irritating. Whenever I hear someone pronounce the word “Hawaii” properly. (Sounds like Havaii with a V sound) I nearly puke.
It’s like fingernails on a chalk-board unless it’s obviously being said by a native Hawaiian who pronounces everything like that in a natural way.
Friends of mine who have taken Hawaiian Language classes don’t even speak like that except for in the classroom environment. I know several native Hawaiians who went to Hawaiian Immersion Schools and are fluent in the language don’t speak like that.
The only people I see who speak like that are the reporters on the local news. I guess they get in trouble if they say Hawaii without the V sound while on TV. It still comes across as forced and in my opinion, phony.
It’s always good to know how to properly pronounce the street names which are always Hawaiian but that’s about as far as I go.
Just be yourself. I’m sure you’re a wonderful person with a great personality. Don’t change a thing. You may come across as trying too hard.
Hi Dave - Thank you so much for that useful insight! You rock!
Thanks for the great tips. One you may want to consider is that in Honolulu, especially near Ala Moana and Waikiki, tourists take the seats on the Bus and don’t let elders sit down. This is extremely disrespectful. One antie had to get up and tell the tourists to let an older man sit down. She told me why she did it and said, “In Hawai’i we have a tradition…you get up for those who are older than you…”
Also, people from the mainland must realize that in Hawai’i we don’t push past one another to get through a door, to enter a store, to get on a bus, or to get where we are going. Many mainlanders seem to have a “take, take, take…mine, mine, mine…me, me, me” mentality. I see them push past little kids, anties and uncles just to get somewhere a few feet away. We allow the other person to go first…it is just more loving. Isn’t that what Aloha is all about anyway???
I am going to Hawaii soon for the first time and I don’t want to offend anybody. I want to experience the culture, but not irritate anybody. Because of this I will respect the suggestions to not try and speak the language or anything. However, one of the rules says to use words like Aloha and Mahalo. Are these the only words that are ok to use?
KT - Thanks for your question.
There is a a local slang/dialect called “pidgin”, where for example the term for a guy might be “brah”, which is short for brother. That’s what you should steer clear off. There’s a good chance, you may not even hear pidgin it on your vacation, so you won’t even be tempted to repeat it.
True Hawaiian words like aloha and mahalo are welcomed by the locals. Don’t worry…you’ll be fine.
Enjoy your first vacation to Hawaii!
When I was in Hawaii, I pulled over so many times to let the locals by because:
1) like you said, they know the roads;
2) I’m on vacation and driving around to enjoy the scenery, why force everyone else to enjoy it too?
man i miss hawaii
Jim - I’m sure the local folks appreciated that. Did you get a shaka from a local for being considerate?
I completely understand the feeling of missing Hawaii. It’s only been 4 days since I’ve been in Hawaii and I’m missing it already!
Those looking for offense will always find it.
I’ve been to Hawaii. Met many locals and had a fabulous time. I never felt like anyone was putting any pressure on me to act a certain way. Many were amused with me when I was inquiring about pigeon. I guess I encountered the happy non- judgmental. I’m sure there have been some extremely annoying tourist and tips about customs are definitely helpful but people just like nice people. Don’t make people paranoid. Just be nice and aware of others feelings.
I did miss spell pigeon though.
I agree Revora. There’s no need for anyone to be paranoid.
This list was put together by both visitors and local residents, so there’s lots of perspectives and insight. Thanks for adding yours.